Erin Mantz lets her two boys, Max, 11, and Zack, 8, use Instagram to keep up with their friends. She sees it as a normal part of sociaCourantcom Social Networkingl life for todays tweens.

I hate to say, Everybody is doing it, so its OK, but if I block them from using it, I feel like it would be like when I was 11, my mom saying I couldnt talk to my friends on the phone, Mantz said. Its how they are social. I dont think I can stand in the way of that unless I see something inappropriate. Then all bets are off.

Teach them to treat each other well, to be a good friend, to not bully, OKeeffe said.

Social media are so interwoven with kids lives, though, that to bar them from using the sites at all is not realistic. In ct, if parents dont let their children use social media, they are not equipping them with the skills they need to function in the digital world, according to Caroline Knorr, parenting editor of Common Sense Media.

Facebook with its requirement that users be at least 13 and Twitter are indeed geared toward older teenagers and adults, according to experts. Gwenn OKeeffe, a pediatrician and spokeswoman for the American Academy of Pediatrics,new york escort said parents should follow those restrictions because children younger than 13 are not developmentally ready for the nuances of the social interactions on those sites.

Parents can use the chat functions on sites such as Webkinz, which is geared toward children ages 6 to 13, as a way to teach kids to be kind in the online world, OKeeffe said. (Common Sense Media has rated several social media sites for tweens on its Web site.)

Facebook and Twitter, however, are off-limits. Mantz considers those sites more appropriate for adults who use them for professional networking and information gathering. She also said none of their peers use them.

Social networking today is really just a natural part of the way kids and teens are growing up, Social Networking, Knorr said. They use social networking to explore some of the natural developmental issues that they are going through.

When children start a Webkinz account, they give themselves a user name that is associated with their virtual pet. They can invite their friends pets to play games or chat with them on the site.

Both boys use their first names only as their user names. Max shares photos of things he has bought, Mantz said, or sayings that he likes. To Mantz, it seems pretty harmless.

That will prepare them for the interactions on Facebook and Twitter when they get older, and teach them to think of their friends on social media as real people with feelings.

We live in a digital world, OKeeffe said. You have to start incorporating lessons about this as soon as they show interest, as young as you can go. Its just like teaching your child not to put his finger in a light socket.

KinzChat Plus is intended for children ages 10 and older. It allows children to type messages, but the system uses word monitors to screen for personal information or inappropriate content. The site also encourages parents to use it with their children to monitor what they are doing.

But using social media can come at a cost when kids use it to bully or tease classmates, so its important to teach children that they are interacting with real people online, OKeeffe said.

Knorr said its important to monitor how your child is reacting to social media to make sure theyre not becoming obsessed with using it, or upset by things that they have seen. Trouble signs include kids who are acting withdrawn or are obsessive about social networking, Knorr said. If your child is only happy when using social media, or noticeably sad after using it, those are signs that it is problematic.

Webkinz has two levels of chats. With KinzChat, which is designed for younger children, users can choose from preset messages such as Which Clubhouse room is your vorite? and cannot enter their own text.